Snooping! To me it's just plan wrong and there really isn't anyway to justify looking through someone else's private things including their phone/text messages, myspace/facebook messages. I do say that if you have strong suspicions that your partner is cheating on you, then you have the right to look for CLUES and more INFO as to whether or not they are cheating in an attempt to prevent getting PHYSICALLY hurt by them possibly getting an STD and bringing it home to you. But full on snooping, no matter the reason is not excusable, no matter what. People who snoop are USUALLY, just immature, jealous, insecure little sneaks who can't handle that they don't know everything about their partner, want to be the ONLY person they have in their live and freak out if they talk to someone else or what ONE night away automatically means cheating in their insecure little heads. My partner and I have all the passwords to any and all accounts, except this one. I have told him that if he wants to know what is on it, come to me and I will show him, don't just look for it. He knows this is my ONE private thing, I tell him about things I write about on here and leave it signed in when I leave and he is here alone. I'm not hiding anything, but we don't read each others messages. His closest friend right now is a girl he works with, I know he talks to her about our problems, yet I would still NEVER pick up his phone and read a text from her, even though I know that most of the time it is a JOKE text and nothing more or her bitching about her husband and kids or the place they work. We log in to each others accounts and see messages from other people and NEVER click on them, pick up phones with messages on them and don't read them. We are able to, because we trust each other, but the message may be private, not private between me and him, but from the sender to us. Their is still a thing called PRIVACY! I would love to know what goes through someones head when they can sit there and say that snooping is okay. So help me, if you or someone you know is a snoop, tell me how you justify it.
Agreed. If you can't figure things out for yourself or talk about it with you SO, then the relationship is in trouble. Like you I share my passwords with my BF cause I got nothing to hide but people who can't trust their partners scare the hell out of me. It's part of the relationship not knowing everything about them and deserving sharing by mutual respect, especially when it comes to privacy.
Different people consider different things private. I don't care who reads my texts, but I am not going to share my passwords with my significant other. While I wouldn't care in the least if he picked my phone up and read a text...I would care if he took the effort to log into my email or facebook to do so. It's kind of the issue of availablity and personal boundaries. If I am driving, I often have my boyfriend read my text messages and answer them for me. Different things are more private for different people. If I tell him to look through my purse to get something out for me, he will absolutely refuse to do so, because he thinks that is a private thing. While I do not agree, because he feels this way, I will not go into his wallet for any reason. I think that "snooping" is going to mean something different to different people.
I was doing laundry for a boyfriend one day and he came completely unglued to see me checking the pockets to make sure I wasn't washing anything thinking I was going through his stuff. In all actuality, I was just trying to do something nice by him not having to do laundry to have clean clothes to wear to work the next day after he had already worked a thirteen hour day..."Snooping" is a matter of opinion.
Now that being said, if someone is looking for something in my stuff and they do not have the decency to ask me a question outright instead of being underhanded, that is not someone I want in my life.
@Pensamientos@revelife - To me the biggest difference between what is snooping and what isn't, is permission and sneakiness. If you allow someone to look at certain things, there is no way it can be snooping. But if you never said it was okay or they are being sneaky then they are snooping. With my boyfriend and I, we have all or almost all, passwords, and we know what we can and can't look at, including texts. As for your ex and the laundry, I don't get that, he'd have probably had a fit had you not checked the pockets and washed something important like a paycheck stub.
@prettyboy78 - I think you are right, sneakiness would be the main thing that would determine it...I didn't really think about it that way :)
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Agreed. If you can't figure things out for yourself or talk about it with you SO, then the relationship is in trouble. Like you I share my passwords with my BF cause I got nothing to hide but people who can't trust their partners scare the hell out of me. It's part of the relationship not knowing everything about them and deserving sharing by mutual respect, especially when it comes to privacy.
Different people consider different things private. I don't care who reads my texts, but I am not going to share my passwords with my significant other. While I wouldn't care in the least if he picked my phone up and read a text...I would care if he took the effort to log into my email or facebook to do so. It's kind of the issue of availablity and personal boundaries. If I am driving, I often have my boyfriend read my text messages and answer them for me. Different things are more private for different people. If I tell him to look through my purse to get something out for me, he will absolutely refuse to do so, because he thinks that is a private thing. While I do not agree, because he feels this way, I will not go into his wallet for any reason. I think that "snooping" is going to mean something different to different people.
I was doing laundry for a boyfriend one day and he came completely unglued to see me checking the pockets to make sure I wasn't washing anything thinking I was going through his stuff. In all actuality, I was just trying to do something nice by him not having to do laundry to have clean clothes to wear to work the next day after he had already worked a thirteen hour day..."Snooping" is a matter of opinion.
Now that being said, if someone is looking for something in my stuff and they do not have the decency to ask me a question outright instead of being underhanded, that is not someone I want in my life.
@Pensamientos@revelife - To me the biggest difference between what is snooping and what isn't, is permission and sneakiness. If you allow someone to look at certain things, there is no way it can be snooping. But if you never said it was okay or they are being sneaky then they are snooping.
With my boyfriend and I, we have all or almost all, passwords, and we know what we can and can't look at, including texts.
As for your ex and the laundry, I don't get that, he'd have probably had a fit had you not checked the pockets and washed something important like a paycheck stub.
@prettyboy78 - I think you are right, sneakiness would be the main thing that would determine it...I didn't really think about it that way :)